Heal Your Inner Child Before Becoming a Mom
As you transition into motherhood, there’s something important to do to prepare that nobody tells you about: Heal your inner child before becoming a mom.
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I SO wish I had healed my inner child before becoming a mom. Instead, I had to go through postpartum depression and anxiety to learn my lessons. Life always finds a way to teach us the lessons we need to learn, but we can choose to do so before we go through a deep crisis.
Your inner child is the child inside of you. It includes everything you learned as a child. Your inner child is always present, but it may be hard to connect with it, especially if severe trauma occurred during childhood. In general, your inner child wants to be seen, heard, and supported.
This is what we all need in life, but often, instead of listening to the inner child and expressing what we truly need, we turn to anger, resentment, and judgment. These are some of the ego’s favorite tools for keeping us stuck and creating negative cycles. Your life as a child shapes many of your beliefs and behaviors.
In most cases, where no severe trauma occurred, there are still shadows that we need to bring to light and integrate. These may include limiting beliefs, harsh self-judgment and judgment of others, insecurities, and self-sabotaging tendencies. These become patterns we repeat several times throughout a lifetime until we heal.
Here are three reasons why it’s so important to heal your inner child before becoming a mom:
If you heal your inner child, you’ll enhance your transformation
Motherhood is death and rebirth for a woman. Your life, as you know it, will change completely. It’s a beautiful process, but it can be scary and overwhelming. If you start working on yourself and heal your inner child, you’ll open up to transformation, and it will be easier for you to accept and face the challenges that come.
If you heal your inner child, you’ll develop unconditional love for yourself
It’s easy to lose love for yourself when you become a mom. You may lose love for your body, or you may no longer recognize yourself as a person. If you start the work now and attend to your inner child's needs, you’ll open your heart, and the challenges on your path won’t affect your love for yourself.
If you heal your inner child, you’ll become a better mom to your child
If you don’t heal your inner child, you may end up transferring your negative patterns to your child. For example, if you’re judgmental, you may start judging your child, and your child will begin to judge others as he or she grows up. There are no perfect parents, but you can take steps now to become the best mom you can be.
You can start to work on yourself by asking your inner child what she needs in every situation that creates frustration or anger. You can journal about it, close your eyes, place your hand on your heart, and ask your inner child: “What do you need?”
You’ve landed here for a reason. You have felt the calling. The world is transforming, and so are you. In times of rapid change, you need a refuge that reminds you who you are. The Empress Mama Circle is a sanctuary for spiritual mothers rising together.